Something that I love (07/16/06)

I've noticed a lot of things in my years working in restaurants. I've had a wonderful opportunity to watch thousands and thousands of people interact with one another, have private moments, cry, laugh, celebrate anniversaries, birthdays, deaths and break ups; and I've really enjoyed it. It's fascinating to me. I am a voyeur at heart. And that might sound creepy, but people intrigue me.
So, with that, I'd like to make mention of something that I've noticed that I absolutely love. A woman comes into the restaurant alone. I might find her attractive. I might not. If I do there is a good chance I will flirt with her, even in the slightest/ I'll be charismatic, charming, funny, silly, create conversation with her; I'm fairly good at making these types of moments throughout the night. And I enjoy it.
At any rate, I greet her and ask her how many in her party. She says two. I ask her what her name is. She gives me a male name. She sits and waits for the other member of her party, a man.
And I can't get enough of it. Can you tell me why? I'll tell you exactly why. When I ask specifically what her name is and she gives me her boyfriend's, her fiancé's or her husband's name, she is making a statement about a number of things.
She's stating that a) she is taken, b) she feels one/very close/intimate with her man, enough so to use his name to represent them c) She respects her man because she is doing two things for him. 1) She is letting me know that she is taken, and 2) she is letting her man know that she let me know she is taken therefore creating a wonderful sense of trust and confidence for her man. He not only need not worry about whether his woman will flirt with other men, but she has made sure than other men will not flirt with her by letting him represent her. This gives a man ease and peace in the smallest and greatest of ways.
Sometimes the man is present when they come through the door. And when this is the case I usually ask the man for the name because it gives him an opportunity to play the role of the man. I find that men usually enjoy the opportunity to play the part of a man. It gives them a sense of masculinity even if it is something very small, on the subconscious level. I know they do because I sense it. And I do as well.
Sometimes, if the woman is really attractive, I'll test her out and ask her, just to see what type of woman she is. When she passes the test, I feel good about it because I say, "here is a guy with a good woman." He might not even know what just happen, I mean, if asked, he would probably admit to never thinking twice about it, probably not even once, but I guarantee that some part of him is glowing when he hears her give his name.
To me, it boldly states fidelity, respect, thoughtfulness, love, tenderness, admiration and a very, very feminine quality that to me, is simply beautiful and very lovable.